The moment any urban Indian girl hits 25, she already starts
getting bugged for the marriage from every corner of the world. Oh yes, every corner
including relatives, neighbors, family friends, your own friends, colleagues
and every other human existing on this planet. Ah, the only time you thank god
that pets don’t speak your language!! Not only that, the social media gets
flooded with your school friend’s life events along with wedding pictures and
videos, which makes her wonder if she is really losing something or lacking
behind?
Will her timely marriage, which is generally perceived 25 in North
India, be considered only parameter to be called a good and successful woman?? Despite
being well-educated, having decent degree, working in one of the leading organizations,
having able to pay her own bill and possessing the capabilities of buying her
own diamonds.
And there comes the question what is she looking for in a life
partner? I am sure, every other girl on this planet has her own definition of
Mr. PERFECT, giving different criteria different priorities. While discussing this
with the group of girls in office cafeteria, someone gave priority to the good
looks where she said, “She wants a tall, dark and handsome guy just like
Ranveer Singh”, for others it was financial status, job, caste and
the list goes on. This made me wonder should we really consider all these
factors while looking for our life partner. Will his caste, looks, job or
financial status make him Mr. PERFECT? Will such criteria and filters ever be
enough?? Is it what really matters??
So, continuing this discussion further, one of my friends shared
her experience where she interacted with few guys through one of the online
matrimonial sites, Oh Yes “Be found!”
😉.
Initially, she interacted with 2-3 guys matching all her matrimonial site
filters but during conversation, she realized that they are having
contradictory set of view. Later, she met one more guy where everything was
falling into the place i.e. her all practical expectations and comfort were
fulfilled but after one meeting, she said NO
to him the very next day. When I asked about the reason behind her No she
replied “Charu, even I am amazed by my decision. Every practicality was according to me but somewhere I couldn’t make
that connection. My heart didn’t allow me to go for it.”
Then there was another girl who said “Despite so many differences
between me and my fiance, the moment we first met, we just knew this is it.
This is what I want. Just sitting in front of him and sipping coffee gave me so
much happiness that I was smiling whole day for no reason. There was a spark in
our meeting. He was so comforting, it
felt I don’t have to utter a word to tell him anything, like all my search
filters just disappeared and are irrelevant.”
And there it struck me, at times the higher us needs more than
what we expect from life, more than the outwardly comfort that we seek. May be
the things we feel are crucial to live a decent and a respectful life are
important from a society’s point of view, which we can show to our relatives
and everyone in society that this is my husband with all the qualities-
tall, dark, handsome, rich and above all same caste. This may satisfy the society,
but will these qualities satisfy you? Are we looking for a life partner with
whom we are going to spend our life, or we just want someone who can be
displayed in front of our societies and relatives?
Materialistic
things might give us temporary happiness and makes our life convenient, but at
the end of the day it is the connection and love that soothes our soul and
bring peace in our life, no matter how much we struggle in our daily lives. Their
only presence makes you stronger and a better version of yourself. The days you
don’t believe in yourself, he will believe in you and that will be soothing
your soul like no one else on this planet.
P.S: - “It’s worth the wait, find your soul
soother”